Monday, February 18, 2013

Vaughn Life Coaching is Closing Shop

It has been a good ride, but all good things must come to an end. I'm closing Vaughn Life Coaching, but when one door closes, another one opens. I want to take my whole approach to personal development in a new direction and I'm starting out this journey with a new business. The general idea is similar to what I've done with Vaughn Life Coaching, but with a focus on two things...

1. An adaptable conversational approach to meet the needs of the client.
2. A structured developmental plan to ensure that goals are set properly, tracked, and achieved.

The new business and approach is named ......

I'm in need of a reboot and I think this transition will be good for me and for my clients. My goal is to be able to sit down with people, be their friend, act as a sounding board for their ideas, offer guidance, and teach them how the principles of quality control can help them live a quality life.

So, what's the fate of this blog? I plan on leaving it and my website up until the domain expires next year. After that I'll move the blog to a free hosting site. I haven't decided if Q Sessions will have a blog like this one, but if you like Q Sessions on Facebook you'll get all the latest news.

I'm still getting everything ready for an official launch in the near future, but for now you can visit to see what it's all about. Thank you for your support over the years! Feel free to send me an email or facebook message every once in a while. I hope we can keep in touch!


Kyle Vaughn

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Writer's Block

I need to just start writing. Lately I've had the idea that I want to write a book. Now I'm toying with the idea of actually doing it. The general concept of the book is floating around in my head and it has helped to explain it to people, but I really need to figure out where to begin... before I begin.

Going from what I learned in my high school English class, I need to do the following...

Write a thesis statement
Create an outline
Choose a "voice"
Ask Jeeves, "where can I buy term papers?"
Decide that even if everyone else cheats, I would be the one to get caught
Write it all in one day

That all worked great when I was writing a 20 page paper on the "Atom Bomb" for history class, but this book is something I want to be proud of and that's intimidating. Anyone know of any good resources for beginning non-fiction writers?

The book will center around a framework for goal setting. The idea is that if you can get a solid foundation and framework, you can then add and achieve whatever goals you would like. How many times have you written goals down in a notebook only to never open the notebook again? Okay, maybe you open it a year later and laugh as you remember how you actually thought you were on the verge of some great change in your life.

I want this book to teach people (including myself) how to open that notebook every day, and make plans, and track progress. Sometimes my goals feel like our fancy dishes. They're nice and beautiful and we love them, but we don't have a place to put them, so they sit in boxes in our closet until once every other year for Thanksgiving or something when we actually use them.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Prepared for the "Real World"

I'll never forgive my 3rd grade teacher for telling me CURSIVE is how I'd be writing the rest of my life.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013


I wish I could give an inspiring toast, or a clever toast, or a funny toast or at least a coherent toast. I googled "funny toasts" and expected some ridiculous bread pictures, but ended up with these gems...

May you be in Heaven fifteen minutes
before the devil knows you are dead.

Here's to the man who is wisest and best
Here's to the man who with judgment is blest,
Here's to the man who's as smart as can be –
I drink to the man who agrees with me!

Wise, kind, gentle, generous, sexy . . . but enough about me. Here's to you.

I drink to your health when I'm with you,
I drink to your health when I'm alone,
I drink to your health so often,
I'm starting to worry about my own!

As you ramble through life, whatever be your goal,
Keep your eye upon the doughnut, and not upon the hole.

May misfortune follow you the rest of your life,
But never catch up.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

6 Ways To Do "Tomorrow You" a Solid

Your future self tends to get the short end of the stick. They deal with that gross taste in their mouth from not brushing your teeth the night before. They drag themselves out of bed because you stayed up too late. They apologize to the neighbors after you went to get the mail the night before, but were too lazy to put on pants, and the door locked behind you, so you tried climbing onto your second floor balcony, and somehow ended up falling asleep on a porch swing...but not YOUR porch swing. So here's 6 ways to say sorry and do "Tomorrow You" a solid.

Go to Bed 30 Minutes Early
Chances are you don't get enough sleep. It's easy to see why. Yesterday you stayed up late, so you were tired and groggy all day and finally got a second wind at night and wanted to get stuff done or relax and watch some TV or something. Why not go to bed at a reasonable hour? That's Tomorrow You's problem. Yesterday You didn't do you any favors, so why help out Tomorrow You? It's like in high school when freshman get picked on by seniors and hate it... only to become seniors themselves and pick on the freshman. Break the cycle and get to bed early!

Plan the Day
Get all the organization and planning done so that Tomorrow You doesn't have to worry about it and can end the day feeling successful and productive. With any luck, Tomorrow You will feel so good that he'll think about things he can do for Two Days From Now You.

Knock Something Off Tomorrow's To Do List
Wouldn't it be nice if Yesterday Me had already taken the car in for an oil change? Take a look at your plan for the day and see how much you could get done now. Tomorrow You will really appreciate it.

Prepare a Gift for Your Spouse
Tomorrow You is going to be busy. Tomorrow You may even be a jerk sometimes, so this one is actually doing your Tomorrow Spouse a solid. Buy or make a gift and set it aside so you can give it to your spouse the next day. It doesn't have to be big; just make it nice.

Eat a Light Dinner
If Tomorrow You is going to be stepping on the scale in the morning, this simple demonstration of moderation will be greatly appreciated.

Make Waffles
If you ate the light dinner before, Tomorrow You might wake up hungry. So, make some waffle or pancake batter the night before, put it in the fridge and have it ready for a quick, easy, and tasty breakfast. Yum.

Friday, December 14, 2012


Like most people, my thoughts and prayers have been turned towards the victims of the tragedy in Newtown Connecticut today. I've tried not to think about it because it brings up so many emotions of sadness, anger, and confusion, but I still think about it anyway, even though it hurts. I cannot even begin to imagine the grief of the families who have been separated from their loved ones.

On the radio, they were interviewing a woman whose daughter was killed at Columbine. They asked her what she imagined these families were going through. Then they asked her what could be done to help them. I found her response very telling. She said that nothing could be done. The loss they feel is so great that nothing can be said or done to ease the pain. They'll just have to endure it. If you've had enough sadness today, you can skip the next paragraph and go straight to the end...

Today I've kept thinking about one of the saddest things I've ever read. It's in Dr. Phill's book Life Strategies. He tells the story of a couple who has a child being kept alive on life support. It comes to the point where they must make the decision to allow their child to move on. "When the machines were switched off, the silence was deafening. Megan went quietly. No dramatic music played; there was no 'scene cut-away' to a happier time; there was just a sterile room, a dead child, and two parents, very much alone."

There may very well be nothing we can really do. We can be there for them and try to ease their burdens, but nothing we do can take away the pain. That's why the entire nation has turned to prayer. Peace and comfort in a time like this can only come from God. It won't come from sermons, condolences, or assurances from others, but from God speaking directly to them through the spirit. I pray that in this terrible time the families will be given the strength to turn toward God and find the comfort they desperately need and deserve.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

More Energy Please

I'm facing a serious energy crisis and drilling in ANWR won't cut it. These cans of caffeine and sugar might do the trick, but they'll only treat the symptoms rather than solve the problem. Plus they're gross. Yucky.

I managed to summon enough energy today to think about my lack of energy. That's a start, I guess. I'll spare you my thought process and go straight to the conclusion.

My current lack of go-get-'em-ness and abundance of do-nothin'-ness is the result of improper passion maintenance. Passion is the driving force that gets me off the couch and in to action. When I'm passionate about something, there's never any lack of energy, so am I just not passionate about anything? I don't think that's the case, but what's going on then?

Well, I think a while ago, I put my passions on hold and they've kind of been forgotten about. Somehow this malicious belief snuck it's way into my head and began to whisper, "you don't have time. you're too busy. there's more important things to do. you should switch to GEICO." Okay, one of those voices may have been an ad I heard on Pandora.

The truth is, I do have time! Or at least I have as much time as I've always had! Or at least I ALMOST have as much time as I've always had!....I have SOME time! I can use that time working towards a goal I'm passionate about. Just thinking about this vague idea of working towards something is already pumping me up.

I wonder if this is true for more people than just me? Are energy drinks selling so much because people need a supplement to make it through a mundane day filled with monotony, tedium, repetitiveness, boredom, sameness, uniformity, flatness, and redundancy? It makes sense to me. Where's the drive to get up and do the same thing every day only to get up and do the same thing every day?